Parenting

Interesting insight on this blog entry in Freakonimics - http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/07/07/the-paradox-of-parenting/

The crux is that parent's don't seem to enjoy parenting is a strange conclusion made by almost all studies in this field. I am not sure I fully subscribe to this theory as I oscillate between happiness and despair when parenting. Maybe its more despair than happiness, but one thing I am sure about it is that happiness definitely has a longer lasting effect than despair.

Accomplishment is important

Not losing focus is the key. It’s about switching your focus from quantity to quality, and making sure that you use your productivity for a greater good: reaching your goals. Wonderful insights at http://workawesome.com/productivity/being-productive/

Who are you?

someone who follows rules and also believes in the them is Ram. Some who follows rules but does not believe them is Duryodhana.

one who believes in rules but breaks them is Krishna, one who neither believes in rules nor follows them is Ravan. Who are you?

You know you are driving in India

Recently got a mail about driving habits in India.

You know you are driving in India if ...

1. People in cars think they are conserving their battery by not using the turn signals.
2. The side-view mirrors always remain folded in, lest they come in the way of the car's aerodynamics.
3. The cellophane/plastic covers on seats and headrests remain in place even after the car is a year old.
4. The right of way belongs to the bigger vehicle.
5. Pedestrians are unnecessary objects on the roads that need to be honked out of existence, if possible.
6. The slowest moving tractor is invariably be on the fast lane.
7. The truck in front of you has both the driver and the cleaner waving their hands out of the right and left window at the same time.
8. The "L" sign adorns vehicles that are speeding past you.
9. The traffic light at a junction is showing red, amber and green at the same time.
10. The bus driver wanting to take a right turn at a traffic junction moves to the extreme left lane, picks up a passenger and cuts directly in front of all the right lanes to take his right turn.
11. Your first new car scratch "happens" within 30 minutes or 100 metres of driving out of the showroom, whichever is less; first new car dent within 10 days or 1000 km, whichever is less.
12. You have an accident while driving at less than 20 km/hour or less (you are lucky if you can get up to triple that speed these days!)
13. Every fifth car you pass has a saree pallu or dupatta peeking out the bottom of the passenger side door.
14. The number of milk cans on any given Royal Enfield motorcycle is an even number greater than 5.
15. You have an accident and ask the truck driver to produce his license and he tells you casually that it was confiscated by the police some 20 years back near Jhumri talaiya.
16. For every bull you see standing on the road right in front of you, there are five cows approaching you from either left or right. And the cow dung under your car is really bull shit!
17. The five trucks you overtake on a given road have the following five messages on their backside - "HORUN PLASE", "HURN PLEESE", "HOUR PLISS", "HARN PLECE" and "HORNY PLACE".
18. The bus in front of you is listing heavily to the left (the door side) and a whole family is hanging on to the door by one hand.
19. The number of passengers in a car is indirectly proportional to the size of the car - a Merc or a BMW will have a lone occupant, a Maruti 800 a family of 10 plus the neighbours.
20. The lane divider is seen as something you use to guide yourself while driving on the wrong side of the road.
21. The speed breaker height is universally one and a half times the ground clearance of your vehicle. The only exception is if you are behind the wheel of a Tata truck.
22. The road on either side of a railway crossing is fully occupied by vehicles of 17 types, with each one pointed directly at another one on the other side of the railway crossing.
23. The average distance between vehicles going one way is a safe 2.345 cm and the same statistic for vehicles going in opposite directions is a highly conservative 3.987 cm.
24. The headlights of every vehicle are defaulted to the high beam mode, since this is a clear sign of manliness and machismo. If a vehicle is not able to drive with its high beams on, it has no rights to unhindered driving on the road.
25. The road may have a length, but no fixed width. Every road is a many-shouldered thing - you drive on the road, but when you can't, you drive on the shoulder; when you can't on the shoulder, there is the shoulder's shoulder, and so on. It is only after you have scraped the wall of the house on the edge of the road that you start considering the remote possibility of slowing down and nosing your way back towards the centre. Of course, real men don't do this - they just take the wall along with them.

Power politics

The manner of disposal of complaint against Indian cricketer Harbhajan Singh for alleged racist remarks to Australian cricketer Andrew Symonds has incensed a lot of Australians. The main grouse being the way Indian cricket board (BCCI) was able to arm twist the world governing body ICC and Cricket Australia (CA) into following its lead.
With some explicit and some implicit threats of withdrawing from the tour from BCCI and its resultant financial loss to CA and ICC and not to forget Television companies, from the very outset, it was not tough to figure out that the final decision would be as per the liking of Indian team and cricket board. So I wonder why the comments now. Maybe the reality dawns on some people later than others.

I tend to sympathize and agree with the Australians who feel that the financial clout of BCCI in cricket led to the unwanted semi-withdrawal of complaint from the Australian cricket team.
But isn't it the norm in every society that the rich and powerful always have there way? Whatever space the weak get is not taken but given by the strong.
Few examples:
This article on how the rich nations which contribute most to the UN kitty are arm twisting the UN to spend in the manner in which they tell it to.
The bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki in WWII. Who says that the US is a bad country?

Australians, welcome to the real world!!

Umberto Eco’s Anti-Library

Interesting quote from Taleb's Black Swan

“The writer Umberto Eco belongs to that small class of scholars who are encylopedic, insightful, and nondull. He is the owner of a large personal library (containing thirty thousand books), and separates visitors into two categories: those who react with “Wow! Signore professore dottore Eco, what a library you have! How many of these books have you read?” and the others - a very small minority - who get the point that a private library is not an ego-boosting appendage but a research tool. Read books are far less valuable than unread ones. The library should contain as much of what you do not know as your financial means, mortgage rates, and the currently tight read-estate market allows you to put there. You will accumulate more knowledge and more books as you grow older, and the growing number of unread books on the shelves will look at you menacingly. Indeed, the more you know, the larger the rows of unread books. Let us call this collection of unread books an antilibrary.
We tend to treat our knowledge as personal property to be protected and defended. It is an ornament that allows us to rise in the pecking order. So this tendency to offend Eco’s library sensibility by focusing on the known is a human bias that extends to our mental operations. People don’t walk around with anti-resumes telling you what they have not studied or experienced (it’s the job of their competitors to do that), but it would be nice if they did. Just as we need to stand library logic on its head, we will work on standing knowledge itself on its head. Note that the Black Swan comes from our misunderstanding of the likelihood of surprises, those unread books, because we take what we know a little too seriously.
Let us call this an antischolar - someone who focuses on the unread books, and makes an attempt not to treat his knowledge as a treasure, or even a possession, or even a self-esteem enhancement device - a skeptical empiricist.”


After reading this piece, I don't fear the growing number of unread books in my collection. And it inspires me to buy more books and not wait till I have read all of the present unread set which I was doing till now.

Raise your sights

The article Cricinfo - Raise your sights, India by Peter Roebuck on the state of Cricket in India and what it should do next in Cricket is an interesting one. The arguments raised in it can easily be applied to personal life as well:

1. In the long run it was not the result that mattered but the response -- rise like a phoniex from the ashes is what they say
2. A newly formed nation relishes every achievement because they instil confidence and create identity. A mature country is not so easily pleased. Certainly, it does not live in the past. -- but it does remember it so as move forward in a better manner
3. Defeats have led not to rational introspection but to loud protest -- do not blame someone else but see what more you could have to done to win
4. Goals help to define actions -- no better truth than this one
5. extract every last drop of ability .... keep working, keep improving. -- the only thing constant is change